Grief sucks & then you die
PTSD is grief the genius of which is it must be dealt with
regardless of talent which does what it can
and of indifference; it is merely ignorance and arrogance.
To that end I lend you my current notes gathered across religion and science in faith received from the same source:
GRIEF:
A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convinced of it. --Alexandre Dumas ?
All we are asked to bear we can bear. That is a law of the spiritual life. The only hindrance to the working of this law, as of all benign laws, is fear. --Elizabeth Goudge
Anyone who limits her vision to memories of yesterday is already dead. --Lillie Langtry
Death not merely ends life, it also bestows upon it a silent completeness, snatched from the hazardous flux to which all things human are subject. --Hannah Arendt
Do not surrender your grief so quickly
Let it cut more deeply
Let it ferment and season you
As few human or divine ingredients can. --Hafiz of Persia
Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened. --Dr. Seuss Theodor Seuss Geisel
Excess of grief for the dead is madness; for it is an injury to the living, and the dead know it not. --Xenophon
Finding a new normal . . .Kept it moving . . . to keep living . . . I win --Marvin Sapp
Grief and constant anxiety kill nearly as many women as men die on the battlefield. --Mary Bokin Chesnut
Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of a joy you must have somebody to divide it with. --Mark Twain
Happiness is like those palaces in fairy tales whose gates are guarded by dragons: we must fight in order to conquer it. --Daphne Du Maurier
Happiness is not a possession to be prized, it is a quality of thought, a state of mind --Daphne Du Maurier
In order to go on living one must try to escape the death involved in perfectionism. --Hannah Arendt
It isn't for the moment you are stuck that you need courage, but for the long uphill climb back to sanity and faith and security. --Anne Morrow Lindbergh
It was the offspring of happy days, when death and grief were but words, which found no true echo in my heart. --Mary Shelley
Love comes unseen; we only see it go. --Austin Dobson
Many who have spent a lifetime in it can tell us less of love than the child that lost a dog yesterday. --Thornton Wilder
Mourning is not forgetting. ... It is an undoing. Every minute tie has to be untied and something permanent and valuable recovered and assimilated from the dust. --Margery Allingham
One does not ask of one who suffers: What is your country and what is your religion? One merely says: You suffer, that is enough for me.” --Louis Pasteur
Only a man who has felt ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss.
Out of difficulties grow miracles. --Jean de la Bruyere
Sometimes, when one person is missing, the whole world seems depopulated. --Alphonse de Lamartine
Soon we shall die and all memory of those five will have left earth, and we ourselves shall be loved for a while and forgotten. But the love will have been enough; all those impulses of love return to the love that made them. Even memory is not necessary for love. There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning.
--The Bridge of San Luis Rey (1927) --Thornton Wilder
Suffering raises up those souls that are truly great; it is only small souls that are made mean-spirited by it. --Alexandra David-Neel
The cure for grief is motion. --Elbert Hubbard
The loss of a friend is like that of a limb; time may heal the anguish of the wound, but the loss cannot be repaired. --Robert Southey
The mind that is wise mourns less for what age takes away; than what it leaves behind..
--William Wordsworth
The pain of love is the pain of being alive. It is a perpetual wound. --Maureen Duffy
There is neither happiness nor misery in the world; there is only the comparison of one state to another, nothing more. He who has felt the deepest grief is best able to experience supreme happiness. We must have felt what it is to die, that we may appreciate the enjoyments of life. --Alexandre Dumas or --Hafiz of Persia ?
There is something pleasurable in calm remembrance of a past sorrow. --Cicero
To love deeply in one direction makes us more loving in all others. --Anne Sophie Swetchine
We can never go back again, that much is certain. The past is still too close to us. The things we have tried to forget and put behind us would stir again, and that sense of fear, of furtive unrest... might in some manner unforeseen become a living companion, as it had before. --Daphne Du Maurier
What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us. --Emmerson & Thoreau
When we lose one we love, our bitterest tears are called forth by the memory of hours when
we loved not enough. --Maurice Maeterlinck {Belgian Philosopher, 1862-1949}
When you're feeling your worst, that's when you get to know yourself the best. --Leslie Grossman
You need not cry very loud; he is nearer to us than we think. --Brother Lawrence
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